How are YOU? The Silliest question in English!

How are You?

When someone ask this formal question to you, how is your response?

Are you able to speak clearly and correctly, how you are or how you feel?

Are you able to speak exactly what you want to tell about you or just parrot the standard response, ‘I am fine’, ‘Excellent’, ‘Going Good’, or ‘Just Going Well’… and then when you ask someone the same question, are you able to get the proper answer? Probably Not reason that we have become little bit autopilot in terms of formal behaviour with little thought on that. We have just asked people their welfare just for asking and then get busy without own work.

Suppose someone ask you, ‘How are YOU?’ and if you start revealing exactly what you feel, I am sure, the expressions of the listeners got changed as he is not really expecting you to answer honestly. Is he/she?

The world has just entered into the formality zone where very few individuals are considerate about others’ pain and problem. They are not bad; they just have become like that as they also have their own pains and problems to solve.

My argument here is that if you are not really caring anyone, no need to ask him/her, ‘How are you?’; not to waste in the act of silly formality. If you ask someone about how he/she is, provide them undivided attention and listen to them emphatically with considerate feelings. Or Else! It is sheer waste of time and energy from both the communicators.

Next time when you meet someone, be mindful which questions, you are asking or responding. Instead of asking this mindless question, ask proper question perfectly suitable to that individual. 

It is true that sometimes we all become emotionally sterile and all the feelings have gone! But your attentive listening can ease someone’s pain, may be your words of empathy or encouragement change the life of someone.

Think before you speak! AND why to speak, Just LISTEN! It may change someone’s life. Remember life will never be the same! Not convinced, listen to Haddaway – Life 

(My Favourite song)

On Lighter Note...

(Focus on Lyrics but you can Dance also on this!)